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Barkha  Pai's avatar

I think the next article on this topic should be - how do we raise other women. There are some ground rules we need in our personal, professional and interpersonal lives which will drastically improve us as women’s collective wellbeing. Would’ve great to see what you find.

Barkha  Pai's avatar

I have shared this article with my women’s and teenage girls and it has led to heated discussions and new information! Keep up the excellent work! Looking forward to see more of your work !!

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This makes me so happy, thank you!!

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Hi Barkha, thanks for this suggestion. I will look into it and see if I am equipped to write about this, and if I am, I will! Thanks again!

Jamie Goguen's avatar

I so deeply deeply appreciate this insight. I think that when women finally wake up to this realization, patriarchy won’t stand a chance. LETS FKN GO, Ladies! 👏👏👏

Jenny Korotko's avatar

Thank you for writing this. It's something I've been haunted by for years. While the most trauma I've endured was at the hands of men, it was the betrayal by women during my recovery that hurts the most. In my 20s, I was involved in a lawsuit for sexual harassment. The other women I worked with initially encouraged me to sue. Then, some of the same women attempted to testify against me, and there were rumors that the bar owners were offering payments for their testimony. I've kept this to myself for years, afraid to share it for fear of being seen as insane, but it's the truth. I won, and it even went to the US Supreme Court, where I won again. In my 40s, I've experienced a lot of backstabbing at work, again, by other women. I truly don't understand this, and I hope to be a part of the solution moving forward. This article has sparked a lot of my own personal connections to this theme and I wanted to thank you for bringing this to light. Let's keep this conversation going ladies!

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First of all, I am so sorry to hear about what you went through. Thank you for sharing your story. I think this is the work, to speak out and share our experiences and to work towards a world where these things are no longer considered “normal”. Being part of the solution is an amazing way to change the system. Thank you again for this message, I’m happy it resonated with you.

debra banks's avatar

I too, devoured this essay. Thank you so much for writing it & getting it out there. And! Also for your honest responses in the comments (which can sometimes be the toughest place on the internet).

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Thank you!! Yes the comments are wild, but it just proves how much work still needs to be done. The more we talk, the more we can expose the cracks and fix them. Thank you again for reading, I really appreciate it!!

Noodle's avatar

Well written, timely and compelling. If we don’t develop this awareness we are all active in oppression while convincing ourselves we are noble in our conviction to shame a fellow human.

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Thank you! Yes, I hope the more we talk about it, the more can see the ways we are manipulated to turn against each other.

Faerygreen17's avatar

Thank you. I’m crying after reading this. It’s just so sad.

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Yes, so sad! But it’s within our power to change that 🙏

Renee OBrien's avatar

Yes,and when a woman is divorced she is rarely invited by women to an event that is made up of mostly couples

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I can totally see that. So many layers to the same issue!

Cecilia Paredes's avatar

I really liked the article. Where can I read more about the patriarchy issue you talk about?

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Hi Cecilia, are you talking about the Patriarchal Bargain?

Caroline Amicone's avatar

I love you! Look forward to reading more, the work to shift the paradigm is possible!

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I'm so happy it resonated with you, thank you!!!

Sada Ray's avatar

I’m so glad I found this article via Instagram. Excellent article. I found myself shouting ‘yes, yes!’ As I read this. I’m 57, fully post menopausal and really started to unpick all of the rubbish I absorbed in my earlier life and this unlocked so much I couldn’t quite work out. I am very grateful to you.

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I'm grateful you found me, thank you so much for this! And good for you for letting go of our early conditioning, we need more women like you.